#Unsettled

I get asked all the time: Why UnSettled?

The answer is simple: Because so many of us live in a comfortable, predictable bubble. We settle. We convince ourselves that “good enough” is good enough. But when you settle into your ways—when you stop pushing—you stop growing. UnSettled isn’t about being unhappy or discontent; it’s about intentionally leaving the comfortable to learn, to grow, and to truly live. It’s about recognizing that growth happens only when you are slightly uneasy.

I have a core memory of being unsettled that changed the entire trajectory of my life. My husband had just taken a job in Houston, and I was faced with meeting an entirely new circle of people. I wasn’t sure if I wanted to go to the first “meet and greet,” but I forced myself to get out of my comfort zone and go. I walked in unsure of who I would meet, wrestling with my own insecurities about coming across as “too much” or standoffish. But as soon as I entered, a woman looked up from behind the blender and said, “I was just making you a margarita, hoping you were coming.”

She is my forever “Margarita Mama.” That group of women became my soul sisters. We’ve been friends for 20 years and have been traveling together for 15. I would have never met these inspiring women—including my Margarita Mama, who recently ran the rim of Lake Tahoe, over 200 miles on her own self-exploration journey—if I hadn’t made the decision to get unsettled and put myself out there.

That wasn’t the only time stepping outside my comfort zone delivered a profound connection. Several years ago, a random school mom recruited me for a book club. This group included women I normally would not have reached out to or socialized with. But I happily accepted the challenge. I went into that first meeting unsure if I would connect, but I found we had so much in common. We didn’t agree on every topic, but we shared ideas and pushed each other to look at things from entirely new perspectives. I stayed in that book club for years, making connections that expanded my network and, ultimately, expanded my soul. As a result, I rediscovered my love for reading for pleasure—a luxury I hadn’t afforded myself while raising three young children.

These relationships, whether they stay for a season or a lifetime, come into your life for a reason: to help you continue along your journey.  Most recently I used this philosophy on a new friend, an acquaintance who wasn’t quite sure if she liked me. I hosted a school event and basically forced her to stay for a nightcap. She ended up being the last one to leave. We bonded over wine, stories, and ideas, and a beautiful, kindred friendship was formed. We often joke about how she wasn’t sure she wanted to be my friend, but I’m so glad I pulled her out of her comfort zone and made her get unsettled with me.

So, my message to you this week, ladies, is simple: Do something that takes you out of your comfort zone. Find something that makes you uneasy and embrace it. What’s the one thing you’ve been putting off because it feels too uncomfortable? Tell me about it in the comments!

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